It must have been the chocolate cheesecake.
At ACO conference a few weeks ago I sort of went off about positive thinking a bit.
But I do know that I’ve been cut down before for appearing to think negatively. When I’m trying to understand how to prepare for something like a trip, event, or perhaps a conversation, and I don’t quite get the gestalt of how it’s going to go, I want to plan for the different possibilities. … People attribute grand pessimism to preparedness of that sort. Yet this is not pessimism; when I plan by going through all the terrible things that could happen, or just asking questions to get at how it could go, I’m giving my mind something to wrap itself around so I know what I’m doing. If that sounds vague, that’s related to the point: I need the vagueness to be toned down a little, so I can compute, so I don’t get overwhelmed by loose-canon thinking. I can only “jump without a net” if I know, say, what I’m jumping off of.
Preparing for things not going exactly as you’d prayed/affirmed/worshipped for isn’t being negative – it is realizing that SHIT HAPPENS sometimes and you don’t always attract it and it isn’t always your fault and it isn’t always some deep karmic reverberation. Sometimes: Random. Shit. Happens. It doesn’t mean you are a broken person. Just that there is a world outside your narcissistic self-centered view that you control and create your own simulacrum reality.
It doesn’t mean you don’t take a risk or try something out but that you don’t act all victimized when it doesn’t go exactly according to plan.